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Positive change: The BIG power of small

As you embark on the new year, you might be tempted to use it as an occasion to make wholesale change in your life. My advice? Don't!

Wholesale, grand scale change almost never works. You run at it fueled by an initial adrenaline rush, maybe feel that first blush of successful change, and then almost inevitably start to falter as old patterns start to take over again. 

Instead of going for that wholesale, grand scale change, do something different. Tap into the BIG power of small. Twenty small steps in pursuit of a big change is exponentially more likely to bring the results you want than one gargantuan one. 

Training for change

One way to think about it is using your time through the year to train for a marathon. Except in this case you're not training for a marathon, you're training for a substantial positive change in your life. 

If you're training for a marathon, what is likely to be more successful, breaking your training into ongoing, consistent effort or trying to cram all your conditioning into the beginning of the year? 

Clearly, if you do the latter with a marathon, you have a snowball's chance in hell of succeeding. Your chances aren't much better taking that approach to making a positive change. 

Instead of making a wholesale change, think about the small changes you can make that would add up to the larger change. For example, let's say you're tempted to make a sweeping commitment to eating healthily. Great! 

Real change is like playing with LEGOs

To tap into the big power of small, resist the urge for instant gratification. Instead, brainstorm what building blocks to that change could look like.

So maybe your first change is in your level of understanding and awareness. You decide to educate yourself on what your body needs and the impact of various foods on both your physical and mental state. You can start incorporating more healthy foods into the picture as you feel called to, but it isn't your focus.

Maybe the next step is to simply commit to eating the recommended minimums on fruits and vegetables. No wholesale change to your diet. Just adding the positive impact of nutritious food. 

Maybe another step would be to minimize your sugar consumption, or to start drinking more water. 

As you make small changes and give them time to gel, you can start building on them. If you take the approach to change I talked about in yesterday's post, looking at it as a year-long project, by the end of a year's time you can have made significant and - even more importantly - long-lasting change. 

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One small question that can change your life

If you want to know what will life look like for you in five years, or even next year, look no further than the choices you are making and the actions you are taking today. You're manufacturing the future through those choices and actions. 

Some of what happens in your life will be beyond your control, true, but you also have a tremendous ability to shape, sculpt, and direct how it unfolds. In fact, whether you realize it or not, you're already doing that. You're already making choices and taking actions (or not making and taking them), and that is defining your future. 

In a post on building effective patterns of action (constructive habits, essentially), Laura Schenck said something that struck a chord and pointed the way to a simple yet incredibly powerful question that has the potential to change your life dramatically. She said:

Each small behavioral choice that you make is either taking you closer to or further away from your true goals.

You can flip that observation into a question that, if asked regularly, could make a world of difference in the life you create. The question is:

Is this choice moving me closer or distancing me from my goal?" 

Simple as that. One little question with two potential answers, asked over and over and over again, will effectively keep you on track and moving in the right direction. You can replace "goal" with "the life I want to create," or "my vision," or whatever else your big picture inspiration might look like, but the basic concept is the same. 

At the micro level asking this question can help you avoid veering off course and create an ongoing awareness of the results of your choices. 

At the macro level, the cumulative impact (of both consciously choosing to direct your choices and actions towards your goal and of refraining from choices and actions that lead you away from it) can be enormous. 

Try this: For the next week, pay attention to the choices you make and the actions you take and ask whether or not they're taking you where you want to go. You don't have to do anything different. Just notice. The goal is just to start building a more habitual awareness.

Once you start to more habitually pay attention to the long-term impact of your choices and actions, you can start taking the next step, which is asking, "What do I need to do differently?"

One little question. What do you have to lose? Or perhaps more importantly, what do you have to gain? 

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Making progress: Take a tip from a tightrope walker

Sometimes making progress when you jump into something new can feel as precarious as walking a tightrope. You're up to your eyeballs in the new and unfamiliar, and you're struggling to stay upright. 

 As I was watching a tightrope walker on a Cirque du Soleil DVD the other day, it occurred to me that there was a lesson there to apply to our careers and our lives in general. Here are some of the thoughts that came up. 

Focus on change where it happens: Right here & now

The tightrope walker had to cross a huge gap from one platform to the other. But to get there, he couldn't be focused on the whole distance. He had to keep his attention in the present moment. He had to focus on the step he was taking. Getting caught up in thinking about the whole distance would only serve to distract him.

So many of us look at our goals and get distracted by the big picture. We get caught up in fantasies about what is going to happen and neglect the nuts and bolts work that needs to be done right here and now. Or we let fear of falling somewhere along the line keep us from putting our best focused effort into the present moment. 

When you focus on doing your best in the step you're taking right now, the future takes care of itself. 

Take a small step and build on it

Sometimes staying in balance is the result of simply not throwing yourself offbalance. The tightrope walker didn't take big open strides as he walked forward. Instead, he put one foot immediately in front of the other, then slid it forward. 

One benefit of doing that was that there was a minimum amount of time for his foot to be potentially off track and throw his balance off.

That got me thinking of how we can do the same. Essentially it's about taking a step in the right direction and building on it, rather than feeling like we need to get it all done in one giant leap. 

Any number of things can throw us off balance as we're creating something new. Uncertainty. Fear of failure. Not knowing how to do something. Feeling overwhelmed. Not feeling up to the task. The list goes on (and on, and on). 

Taking small steps and building on them is one way to minimize the likeliness that those things will knock you completely over. As you take steps, you gain insight, understanding, and a level of mastery that you can apply to moving forward. 

Use your vision and goals to help keep you on track

Finally, as the tightrope walker slid his foot forward, the wire acted as a guide for where to keep his center of gravity. It's the same in our efforts to move forward in life, except in our case the guidance comes from sliding our feet along the trajectory that leads to the goal and the vision. 

It's easy to get lost and off balance as you move towards your goal. The busy demands of life, the shiny new ideas and opportunities, they can all distract us from what we originally set out to do. 

Make it a frequent habit to check in with that trajectory. Is what you're doing leading you where you want to go, or is your foot dangling perilously out of line? 

The tightrope walker made it to the other side. You can too. 

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Creating good habits: A kindergarten approach

Have you ever tried to create a new habit, only to find yourself backsliding right back where you started? Here's a simple yet (for me, anyway) effective way to support your effort. 

Back in March, I decided that I needed to build some better habits into my life. I resolved to:

• Exercise 30 minutes a day
• Meditate 20 minutes a day
• Drink 64 ounces of water a day
• Eat five servings of fruits and vegetables a day

My intent was good, but I knew that the implementation of that intention had a perilously short life span if left to its own devices. I needed a way to keep myself on track. 

I decided to take a page from The Kindergarten Handbook (OK, there's not really a Kindergarten Handbook, but there should be). I created a four-columned chart with a column for each habit and went to the local stationery store to buy some sticky stars (multi-colored, thank you very much). I put the chart on the wall where I see it all the time.

Each day that I did my new habit, I got a star in that column. Any day I didn't, I was faced with a huge, ugly, you-failed-buddy expanse of white space. 

It's amazing how effective that approach has been. There was an immediate and sustained shift in behavior. I would like to say that I responded to the reward of being able to put a star up daily for each column, but the reality is that I was more driven by not wanting to see the white space as constant reminder that I didn't do it. 

There have been many days when the only reason I did one of the new habits was because of the chart. 

I did this for a couple months, then fell off for a few weeks. And while I did each of them more consistently than when I had begun (which tells me that I really was deveoping better habits), it was still too easy to just let it slide. I started it up again a couple weeks ago, and have jumped right back to close to 100%. 

What new habits do you want to develop? Why not make a chart and experiment? Maybe it will work for you, maybe it won't (who knows - I might just be stuck developmentally back in kindergarten). But the risk is zero, and the potential upside is huge. What have you got to lose?

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Get results: Create a public deadline

This morning I had coffee with my friend Lori Richardson. Over the course of our conversation, I committed to deadlines on two products I'm working on. Both of these are products that have been "under development" for much longer than they need to be. 

Now that I have committed to a deadline and actually told someone to expect that I will meet that deadline, the odds that I will get traction on both products have just gone up exponentially. 

Deadlines are great drivers, but if you want to get the biggest bang for your deadline buck, tell someone else. It's waaaaaay too easy to set a target and then let it slide when life gets in the way. Making it public - if only with one person - creates an accountability that doesn't exist when it's all just knocking around in your head. 

For some of my clients, the accountability that their work with me creates is almost as important as the clarity and direction that comes out of it. Because they know that every week someone (i.e., yours truly) is going to be asking, "So how did that go," they stay focused and keep taking action. 

Think of something that you have been wanting to get traction on. Maybe it's a project, or maybe it is finally taking steps towards a new career. Whatever it is, set a goal, set a deadline, and tell someone. Better yet, tell multiple someones. You might even get a group of people together for some mutual deadline accountability reinforcement. 

Try this: Identify a goal you want to achieve. If that goal is something really big (e.g., a career change, or writing a book), identify a sub-goal that you can accomplish within a month. Set a target date as a deadline for that short-term goal. Then find someone and tell them your intent. Ask them to hold you accountable to that goal. Once you reach that goal, do it again. 

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Career & life planning: Look at your 360-degree ROI

What if you were an over-the-moon success in your career, but the rest of your life was miserable? What if you were at the top of your field, but your personal relationships were in tatters? What if you achieved everything you set out to do in your career, but your health was on the skids? 

How successful would you feel?

Your life is an interconnected system

We live in a culture where career takes precedence and life is something we shove in around the edges if there's room. The trouble with that is that life doesn't work that way. Your work and the other components of your life are all interconnected. 

To counter the culturally-ingrained tendency to give work a disproportionately large piece of our focus, stop breaking your life into isolated, disconnected silos. Think of it as a system. 

When you see life as a system, you see that you can't realistically focus on one thing without taking into account the other aspects of that system. You can't say, "I'll do whatever it takes to succeed," and not ask, "Do the 12-hour days I'm putting in align with my goal of having a rich, fulfilling relationship at home?" 

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with those 12-hour days, but unless you consciously make the decision in light of how it affects the rest of your life, you're in dangerous territory.

360-degree ROI

One way to increase your whole-system awareness is looking at what I call your 360-degree Return on Investment (ROI). Most of us think of ROI - if we think of it at all - in terms of the money we get in return for the work we do. And maybe the power and prestige. But the investment we make there (time spent working, education, etc.) doesn't happen in a vacuum. 

When you look at your 360-degree ROI, you ask, "How does what's happening here affect the whole picture?" How are these 12-hour days affecting my relationships? How are they affecting my health? How are they affecting the joy I get out of life?

It's not just about work, either. You can look at any decision in terms of its effect on the whole. How does my decision to eat fast-food for lunch every day affect my energy levels? And how does that affect my work? My relationships? My ability to fully engage in the hobbies that add a savory richness to life? 

More than money

Typically when we think ROI, we think of money. While that's definitely a valid and important piece of the puzzle, life would be pretty grim if that's all we got. When you're looking at your 360-degree ROI, consider what else you would like in your life. For example:

• Love
• Health
• Rich interpersonal connections
• Energy
• Fun
• A sense of meaning
• Spiritual connection/experience

This is far from an exhaustive list of other kinds of return you might gain from your investment of time, effort, and attention in various aspects of your life. It's simply an off-the-top-of-my-head list of examples.

System scan

"OK," you might be thinking, "nice idea, but it sounds waaaaay too complex." Here's a simple way to think about it. Instead of a deep system check, practice doing a quick scan regularly. Take a look at each of the following areas and ask, "How is what I'm doing affecting the other areas?" 

• Work
• Relationships
• Health
• Finances
• Hobbies & Fun
• Contribution / Making a difference
• Spirituality

As you look at how each area impacts each of the others, assign it one of three options: positive, negative, or neutral. 

You can do a quick mental scan of this, but if you want something more concrete to work through,trying making a spreadsheet with each of those areas along the top and along the side.

Create a habit

One nice thing about this approach is that, repeated often enough, it becomes a habitual check-in with yourself. "OK, what's going on in the full picture?" When you regularly pay attention, you don't have to wait for things to become critical before taking action on them. 

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How to be a life sculptor

I often talk about the power of choice to create the life we want (see my posts on the power of the crossroads of possibility and creating your dreams one choice at a time). One of the ways I think of it is using choice as a tool to sculpt your life.

As a sculptor, you have two options. First, you can start with a vision of what you want to create and start removing what doesn't fit. That might be a toxic job, limiting habits, people who drag you down - whatever it is that is standing between you and your ultimate vision. Your efforts are aimed at a specific result.

You can use choice to remove what doesn't belong and reinforce what does. The first step to doing that is to be consciously aware of what is standing in the way and what reinforces your vision. Then you can consciously apply choice as a sculpting tool. For example, you might make a short list of ways that you get in your own way and commit to first noticing them, then to making different choices.

With the second option, you can follow the flow and discover where it takes you. As Michelangelo said, "The idea is there, locked inside, and all you have to do is remove the excess stone." You notice what doesn't belong and remove it, watch for what does belong, and let a life aligned with what energizes and inspires you emerge. 

The beauty of this is that we don't always know what's right for us until we find it. If you aim to create a sculpture based on a flawed and incomplete perspective of what you really want, the end result is bound to be just that, flawed and incomplete. Allowing yourself to discover what's locked inside the stone frees you to learn and grow. You can see each choice you are confronted with as an opportunity to move closer to the heart of it all.

Neither of these approaches are superior to the other. In fact, they're complementary. The first option gives you focus and direction. It gives you a goal to aim your efforts toward. But by itself, it risks being rigid, unable to adapt to hidden features within the stone.

The second option allows you to let go and flow naturally towards your best life. But by itself it runs the risk of meandering aimlessly, dabbling a little bit here and experimenting a little bit there. The focus and direction of the first approach helps channel the energy towards results. 

The two approaches can be used simultaneously, or you can tap into them one at a time. For example, you might let the sculpting flow naturally to help you get out of a rut created by basing your career decision on external expectations, or societal definitions of "success." Once you start to get clarity about what feels right, you can use the focused approach to give it form and substance. That alternating process is likely to continue throughout your life.

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New Year's Resolution alternative: 52 New Week's Resolutions

'Tis the season for well-intentioned resolutions that ultimately go splat. This year, instead of making a flurry of New Year's Resolutions that never see the light of February, try something different. Resolve to make 52 New Week's Resolutions.

A new week's resolution is just what it sounds like. At the beginning of the week, you commit to something for the duration of the entire seven days. Maybe getting some kind of exercise each day, or reading a self-development book for half an hour each day, or eating your vegetables.

At the end of each week, you review how you did on staying true to your commitment. If you succeeded, celebrate. Acknowledge that success. Then make another resolution for the next week.

During the course of those 52 weeks, you might have the same resolution for several successive weeks. For example, if you are working on developing a new habit, it might be helpful to make that habit the focus of your resolutions for at least four weeks (since they say it takes 28 days to develop a new habit that sticks).

You can use resolutions to build on previous weeks' resolutions, or you might use them to give yourself a taste of something new. For example, you might commit to refraining from complaining for an entire week. It's a great small-scale way to explore something without having the daunting weight of forever-n-ever. You can see what it's all about, and decide what about it - if anything - you want to carry forward.

Why bother with new week's resolutions? Here are a few reasons.

You have more opportunities for success

When you make a New Year's Resolution, you have one chance for success, and 365 opportunities for your resolution to join the vast majority of resolutions on the failure pile. But with a New Week's Resolution approach, you have 52 chances for success.

Success builds on success. The more you succeed, the more confident you feel that you can continue to succeed.

Odds are good that you won't hit the mark all 52 times, but achieving your resolution most weeks will still have a cumulatively positive impact. Let's say you fail to keep your new week's resolution six times. You still have 46 weeks worth of success. Not too shabby!

You have frequent opportunities to refocus

When you're in it for the long haul, it's easy to veer off course. Setting a new resolution each week gives you the opportunity to check in and ask, "How's this going?" You only have a week's worth of veering off course before you check in and course correct if necessary, rather than potentially many months' worth.

You are more aligned with the reality of change

As I've said many times before here, real, substantive change doesn't typically happen with the flip of a switch. It happens gradually over time. We take a step, get a result, learn from that result and then put that learning to use as we continue forward. It's an iterative process.

Setting yourself new week's resolutions lines up with that idea. It lets you keep taking steps towards change, building on them as you go, rather than decreeing that a change has taken place and getting frustrated when you discover that, no, actually it hasn't.

Renewed commitment built into the system

Let's face it. Most of us have woefully short attention spans. Sure the resolution seems compelling on January 1st, but what about August 1st? By then it's likely to be ancient history. Making weekly resolutions keeps your focus fresh and current. And the best part is, you don't have to wait till next year to commit to positive change again. It's a continual part of your life.

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Aim for your dream: Out of reach doesn't mean impossible

There is nothing like a dream to create the future. Utopia today, flesh and blood tomorrow.

~ Victor Hugo

If you want to ensure that your life is dull, flat and uninspiring, just repeat this little mantra over and over: "My dreams are out of reach. My dreams are impossible."

A silly idea, you might think. Nobody would consciously try to deflate the potential of their dreams like that. And yet that is precisely what so many people do unconsciously. They look at their dreams and assess them as impossible, or unrealistic, or pie-in-the-sky. And they do it over and over again.

Imagine a world where everyone took that approach. Nothing new would happen. No ideas would ever be developed. Life would be flavorless and dull. We would all be stuck in an endless grey loop of what has always been. 

Here's the thing. Dreams are inherently out of reach. That's where they belong! If they weren't, we would simply call them the next logical step. And yet, the fact that they aren't readily accessible is often used as irrefutable proof that they're impossible.

That's flawed logic. There's a big difference between out of reach and impossible. Unfortunately, many people see them as the exact same thing.That's no surprise, really, since often the only difference between out of reach and impossible is what happens in the space between our ears. 

What is impossible today is impossible tomorrow. It doesn't change. But what is out of reach today might be a little closer to within reach tomorrow, and even closer next month. Think of a ship sailing toward the horizon. How much farther can it see once it reaches the original horizon? What is within reach is always expanding.

Dreams expand your potential. They give you something to grow into. They give you a sense of direction that matters. They also take time, and effort, and persistence.

The question to ask about your dreams isn't, "Can I easily achieve it?" It's, "Can I take a step in that direction?" And then, "Can I take another one?"

Achieving the big dream is almost less important than what happens when you commit to moving towards it. Committing to that direction and taking those steps opens doors, creates connections, and yields results you would never have imagined when you were sitting in the status quo. 

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Big Dream Guidance System

The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.

~ Michelangelo

Stop for a minute and really think about this quote. Apply it to your own life. How high are you reaching? Where are you selling yourself short? Do you have aspirations you won't let yourself pursue? Most of us have potential that far exceeds the goals and dreams we actually allow ourselves to have.

Part of the reason we don't aim as high as we could is that the idea of having a target that is so far beyond the horizon we can see feels scary. What if we fail? What if it really is out of our reach? What if we aim at it and fall short? "See? I told you it was all just an unrealistic pipedream!" Ouch! With thoughts like that, no wonder we avoid the big dreams. 

The Big Dream Guidance System

One way to shift how you think about those big dreams is to see them as a way to define the direction and scope of your efforts. Think of them as a guidance system, rather than goals that must be achieved. 

For example, my big dream might be to be able to reach millions of people and help them create a life that lights them up while making a difference that inspires them. The idea of that many people making the world a better place by living a life they love is incredibly energizing.

To be more specific, I might want to have a string of best-selling books. I might want to be one of the top speakers in the world, touching thousands of people at a time. I might want to be a regular on Oprah and other talk shows.

If I look at that as my Big Dream Guidance System, it tells me that my primary focus - regardless of scale - is to help people make the world a better place through a career and a life they love. That is a constant whether I am doing it at a local level or an international level.

It also gives me a scope: writing and speaking. Again, these are things I want to focus on regardless of the scale I achieve. And as I focus on the things within that scope, I can see that other things I might find really interesting and fun - travel photography, for example - won't necessarily fit. That focus keeps my energy moving in a direction I really care about most.

Step by step with sub-dreams

Having that direction and scope then allows you to dream targeted "sub-dreams," smaller-scale dreams that aim your energy in the direction of your big dream.

One of my sub-dreams might be a single best-selling book. Or even just having a book accepted by a publisher. Or writing a book - published or not - just to show myself I can do it.

This is similar to the idea of identifying a big goal and chunking it down until you get manageable bites. But in this case, it's about harnessing the energy inherent in dreams.

You may never reach your big dream. But when you use it as a guidance system instead of a goal, that doesn't really matter. What matters is that it helps you plot a course for your life that will leave you feeling energized, inspired, and engaged.

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by Curt Rosengren, Passion Catalyst